Uneasy

Lyn was short, pretty and slim
always had a wide grin
she loved bushwalking
did lots of talking

We all knew she was ‘ill’
yet it was fixed with a pill
too scared to ask what
or even how she got

so long as she was ‘normal’
we kept it informal
her company we enjoyed
and she was gainfully employed

Steve came along
as a couple it was strong
next thing she had Daisy
soon after she went crazy!

many months on a ward
we stepped back of one accord
Steve cared for their daughter at a cost
we let Lyn be lost.

how could our good friend
be a schizophrenic [bipolar] in the end
she had seemed just like us
it was far too confronting

befriended by Dan, a handsome strong farmer
as time went by he became less calmer
he had Lyn’s dis ease
knowledge of which I had to gain please?

back to Lyn I did go
met her and three friends at a show
told me voices in their head
made them do strange things in bed

met their psychiatrist too
told of mood swings
paranoid notions and other things
said best for friends to keep in touch

Lyn doesn’t walk or talk much
we write when she can as such
she is unemployed and seldom grins
Daisy visits on vacations

Dan and both brothers need medication
their aging parents overwhelmed
we general public need to hone
care and skills to help these people stay home

for if we could sustain friendships
it would help their emotional dips
they are suffering humans
who need loving kindness

their families struggle on
worried what will happen when they’re gone
so if you meet these good people
remember we could be one

please befriend them and have fun
for those that suffer most
seem to develop a host
of special qualities

19.8.05 – from my archives but worth posting
medication has improved greatly but attitudes maybe not so much …

dVerse, making much of madness, Laura

Lyn is about to become a grandmother, seldom leaves her unit and contact is by text only … names have been changed. That psychiatrist suicided when it became public that he had sexually abused many of these beautiful young ladies under his care …

here is another very different poem about our ‘sanity’

22 comments

  1. Beautifully profound and honest Kate…. community compassion…..is required….
    …… I know…. when Carole suffered with MS, for all those years…… and she was treated ‘differently’…. she was physically immobilised, and could hardly talk…….. lots of people would obviously avoid us……. and I would see the sadness in her eyes…… ………………………………………………..

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  2. They do!
    Everyone has one or more issues. Everyone has problems, struggles, fears, doubts, sadness, etc.
    Everyone wants to be loved, respected, accepted, seen, heard.
    When, oh, when will everyone understand this and help each other rather than hurt each other. 😦
    Excellent poem and post, SweetKate.
    (((HUGS))) to you and (((HUGS))) to Lyn and each of those you named, and the family and friends who love each of them.

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    • sadly Lyn has lost both her parents but does have a very supportive brother. Lost contact with Dan over the years … have known many like this but decided to write about those I knew best to personalise it.

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  3. so disturbing in many ways the evil of mankind. often the hurt is deep rooted in childhood trauma or abuse – thank you for writing this – appreciate your story telling skills with poetic artistry Kate.

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  4. Heartfelt, Kate. Every line, every word, sounds a chord.

    It’s important to remember that the person who gained our love often is sill “in there.” This rude intruder (illness) may have ransacked the house, yet we catch an occasional glimpse of the original inhabitant beckoning from one of the windows.

    Not quite the same as Lyn’s situation, but my late grandmother, despite Alzheimer’s ravages, would have a day here and there when she nearly was back to her old self. Ironically, probably the best day of her latter years was at my grandfather’s funeral.

    You always love those afflicted, and know that some day, either in this world or the next, they’ll be beyond illness’s reach.

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  5. Personalizing the issues I hope brings support to those who need it most. I’m shocked by how many ‘professionals’ abuse their ‘power’ Thank you for bringing this to light. I have dil’s who are bipolar..and have other issues.

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  6. I’ve worked with several bipolar people. Some stresses make the condition worse and some respond to medication — others not so much. It is a struggle for them and for everyone to muster as much compassion as is required on bad days…

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  7. Always harder to ‘see’ what goes on in the brain. We tend to help those with physical ailments that we can see. However kind words to all are helpful. This reminds me of several stories that I have read about people who were thinking of ending their lives, but kind words by a stranger pulled them out enough to seek help and keep living.

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  8. Read the post and some comments. You clearly are knowledgeable on the subject.

    My first response on reading the poem was -wow how life can be quite something. I havent seen such extreme cases or any cases in my life. I think your poem is enghlighting. I do find it sad, but that’s me.

    I am try to reread and finish for the first since i brought the book maybe over 10 years ago. – how to win friends and influence people by Dale Carneigie. One of his points is that everyone wants to feel important, that some become invalids, or even go insane just to have that feeling of importance.

    Like i said , i am no expert in this area. I finding it interesting, sad, stomach turning, and amazing at the same time. I just feel like sharing, love, light and peace too all.

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    • thanks for such an honest and thoughtful response … sociology claims that black sheep of the family are often forced into being mad [MH] or bad [prison] to empower family members!
      Either way nothing is black or white but I can assure you it would be very difficult to ‘fake’ such issues just for attention!

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  9. People with schizophrenia must take medicine for the rest of their lives. If they stop, the fears and delusions come back and threaten the life of the sick and others also when the patient is out of control. Best wishes

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  10. This made me so sad.
    A friend of mine told me that she thought that once she’d told me she was bipolar I would drop her. As so many of her so called friends had done.
    I hope you have a peaceful weekend.

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