Ignoring your passions can make you feel blue
to yourself and your values you need to be true
Destructive emotions damage our charm
there are so many ways that we cause ourselves harm

Lets list just a few:

Smoking, intoxicants, sniffing glue,
Excess of anything and harmful words too!
So hurtful to others that they avoid you,
apologise now and start anew!
So deep in debt all your bills are overdue
banks and businesses lined up to sue?

Do anger and jealousy cloud your charm!
Do you have healthy ways to keep your calm?

What is your personal balm?
Horse riding on a scenic farm
Read the tarot or your palm
Sit quietly contemplating a psalm

Everyday we can refresh our outlook, our view
remake ourselves with healthy habits and feel new
foster supports, revisiting goals might be due
Recognising our inner resilience is a worthy clue

Then our light shines out and we can charm!
Do you have healthy ways to keep your calm?

This is dedicated to all those bloggers who have so courageously shared their self-harm complications … wish I had a cure!


  1. I understand and I feel the same way you do…I wish they could find healthier ways to deal with their feelings and their memories. 😦

    Sadly I think we all have ways we sabotage and hurt ourselves. 😦

    There are so many things that help me. One is talking to a friend…that always helps. Also, getting out of my head and getting out and about and helping someone else who is hurting always helps me.


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  2. Loved this post Kate! There are some many ways to deal with what oppresses us. It’s largely the thoughts inside than the environment outside. To stop blaming oneself is step one, I’ve realized and that not everything is in our control is step two. Reading, writing, solo trips, meditation worked wonders for me. Doing things that you thought you were too old to do, say learn the cello, go tap dancing does amazing healing.

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    • wow you are growing so much, I am impressed! Knowing these things helps and distraction with learning new things and especially volunteering / helping others are other great forms of healing 🙂

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  3. It made me really sad to discover that the people I emotionally supported through depression and issues couldn’t be bothered with my heartbreak in 2017. They judged it not serious enough or something. So I began pulling away from them, left FB, and am not even close to “real life” friends who didn’t have time/energy to talk with me then. I serendipitously found this great blogging community however and things are so much better for me. Weird how it’s worked out!

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    • Indeed Paula in our tough times we quickly learn who our genuine friends are! And the WP community is so friendly and supportive 🙂
      We know when we are ‘home’!
      Can you refer me to a post about what happened in 2017 please?

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  4. It’s truly up to ourselves to do the healing, and with a strong will and loving encouragement, improvements can be made, i’m coming back from my 3rd Stroke, my love of writing is great therapy, enjoying walking and exercising is an added bonus, and my desire to see more of this world has been a great incentive.

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  5. You rhyme amazingly.
    Actually the first thing you wrote is more true and helpful than anything. Being true to what you want. Acknowledging and accepting that you want it. For otherwise you’re fighting a battle that one side has to lose.

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  6. Counting the gifts we presently have, what we are able to do for others…
    Forgiving the self seems always to be last on the list –
    I was just reading an advice column, where an unhappy person wanted to escape life. And the only advice that could be given was to seek help.
    I wish there were enough encouraging words and hugs to help all those in need. I do remember reading a good news article about a woman who held up a sign on a crowed street that said; “Free Hugs” and there were takers. Didn’t matter I guess who was giving and taking so much as the act of the connection and sharing.

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