Just talking with a blogger friend … and we were saying how the garbage needs to arise before we can grow spiritually.
The mundane fact is that we do everything possible to avoid/deny things such as daily chores, pain, confrontation, jealousy, anger, death. We make NY resolutions that barely last 24 hours coz these ugly emotions are deeply embedded by habit.
We need to accept them, name them, look at them, give them colour, shape and size then once we have examined them more closely we will grow from embracing them. Go into the pain, see what caused it, why it arises so frequently … everything that returns is the next lesson to be learnt!